Being your own cheerleader is not about being arrogant, or being better than anyone else – it’s about honouring, appreciating, and loving yourself in a real way. If you can’t show up for yourself, how can you show up for anyone else? We’re sharing five tips on how to step into confidence and show up as your own best advocate in any situation.
1. Play on your strengths and know your worth.
You are an individual, you are unique, and you are absolutely worthy of whatever you want out of life. While it may be easier to point out areas of improvement, focus your thoughts on what you excel at, and give yourself some praise. By creating a more positive internal relationship, you will begin to count on yourself in a new and inspiring way.
2. Check your ego at the door.
Bye, bye ego. Practice the process of separating emotions from your decision-making, and you will be better equipped to show up present and more confident. As Marin McCue so wisely shares in one of our Ace Talks podcast episodes (listen here), “Call bullshit on your first response”, you should never make decisions reactively - this is your ego talking. Pause. Think. React. When you allow yourself to step back, you are able to make less of an ego-driven decision and more of a conscious, confident decision. You are a boss. Own it.
3. Write down your affirmations and goals.
Without a general idea of where you want to go, there isn’t really much of a strategy in the plan to propel yourself forward. This may show up as a lack of confidence in the way you show up in certain areas of your life. It’s okay if you don’t know where to start with this, we’re not suggesting writing a 5-year plan… but it’s helpful to have a general gist of what fuels your fire and where you want this to lead you. What are you passionate about? How does this show up in your everyday life? What can you not stop talking about? Focus on these as you paint the picture of what your affirmations and goals are. You got this.
4. surround yourself with incredible people.
As your own hype girl, you don’t need to rely on others to cheer you on, but rejecting all external validation simply isn’t realistic. This makes it all the more important that you surround yourself with a group of friends that truly have your best interests at heart, so when those moments of self-doubt start creeping up, you can turn to your tribe. If you can’t say, “We build each other up instead of tearing each other down,” you may need to reconsider who you have let into your inner circle.
5. Know that nobody has their sh*t together.
The pressure to succeed at everything is often self imposed. Chances are, you are doing the best you can, and guess what...so is everybody else (even if their perfect Instagram feed may lead you to believe otherwise). You eat chips at an alarming frequency? Embrace it. You put your baby’s diaper on backwards this morning? No sweat, nobody is perfect. While it’s easy to focus on what you think you should be, instead, try to appreciate who you are. Because guess what? That human is pretty damn incredible.
Pro Tip: If you need help getting out of your head, watch this video - it’s adorable, and a beautiful example of how to appreciate yourself.