As a boss lady myself, I know what it is like to win over clients and employers. In an ever-changing and constantly connected world, you need to know how to stand out. The competition is fierce.
However, have you ever considered the similarities between job hunting and the world of dating? If you are an empowered woman, you have probably been on a few first dates in your life time, maybe all too recently. These situations are characterized by the disconnected introduction (often from a quick swipe of a finger), an awkward coffee conversation, and maybe this strange waiting period to see who is going to text who first.
Sound familiar? This is the job search.
Instead of swiping, you’re scrolling through endless job postings on Indeed and LinkedIn with limited information, knowing all too well that these postings are tailored and targeted with an ideal person in mind. You hit apply, wondering if you will ever hear a meaningful word from the black box of the Internet. Then, you magically have a phone call or coffee meeting, both parties knowing absolutely nothing about the other except for the carefully crafted messages on your resume or their company profile. These are the same pains of dating, except in this case, you are relying on this process to put food on the table.
After the interview, you end up in “ghost mode” trying to figure out if you are going to ghost them, or if they are going to ghost you, or if there was really something special there. It creates a lot of anxiety, am I right?
What if I told you there was a better way?
Just like in dating, if you delete the online application that is facilitating this awful process, you can break free from the phenomenon of job search dissatisfaction. Instead of getting your hopes up over nothing, and your soul crushed from the constant rejection, it is time to break free from its grasps.
Instead, skip right to the coffee dates based on key aspects such as, “Are they friends with my friends?”
Literally. It is THAT easy.
Through mutual friends, family members, and colleagues, you are more likely to find the right person (or company) because through this proximity, people tend to have similar values, lifestyles and goals. Have you ever heard the philosophy that you are the combination of the five people you spend the most time with? This is where this comes in handy. When you know your worth and seek out others with similar values, you will be much more likely to succeed in both dating and your job search.
So, instead of downloading Tinder for the sixteenth time, delete it once and for all, and do the same thing with Indeed if you have to. Start with your bubble; the people you know, and reach out from there. Ask them about their careers, ask them about how they got to where they are, ask them what they like and don’t like about their current positions, and gather the information you need to make GREAT decisions. This is called the informational interview process.
Not only has this worked for myself in my own career, but for many of my clients as well. You never know what might be out there until you ask. But, if you are committed to hiding behind the glow of your phone screen in your pajamas, I promise you it is going nowhere real fast.
Have you ever asked someone for an informational interview?