A life-stylist, world adventurer, and a connoisseur of connection, Tonia Mattu is this week’s #WomenOfAce. Utilizing her own experiences, Tonia has designed a framework to take individuals from stuck and disconnected, to confident and crystal clear on who they are and what they want.
Ace: What are you up to? ( Your current hustle )
Tonia: I’m currently doing what I love! I work with modern women in transition who want to reinvent themselves, but have no idea where (or how) to start. They know they’re meant for more than the life they’re living — ie. they have a deep passion percolating within, and desire to make an impact, and they’re tired of living their lives based on other people’s expectations.
This is a pivotal stage of a woman’s life, and I help them gain confidence, clarity, and courage to design their dream life.
We do this through YUOLOGY, the study of you — and the program I teach is called YuSchool.
Ace: Why is this important to you? ( Where did this passion come from? )
Tonia: This is SO important to me, because I know how challenging this phase in life can be. When we’re stuck between the woman we once were, and the woman we want to be it can feel terrifying. I’ve been stuck in this exact stage (twice actually) and wasted way too much time without clarity. When I experienced this transition, I didn’t know where to turn, or who could help, and it literally sucked. I started reading personal development books, attending seminars, and even became a certified professional coach.
But unfortunately, I never came across an actual process, to go within and get clear on who I am, and I promised myself that one day I would create this for women, and I did!
Ace: What was your dream job growing up? How do you think this has influenced who you are today?
Tonia: As a child, I wanted to be a psychologist, which changed to getting into international business (probably because I love culture and travel so much), and I think I also went through a phase of wanting to be a lawyer.
I suppose I’m applying all of these desires now with YUOLOGY, helping people connect with their inner power, making a global impact, and keeping all my legal trademarks and copyrights in check haha.
Ace: If you could describe yourself in only three words, what would they be?
Tonia: Passionate. Curious. Authentic.
Ace: Who’s your biggest inspiration and why?
Tonia: Oprah. End of story. But really though, she’s a woman who didn’t let her circumstances hold her back, and she had (and still does have) an infinite amount of courage to push boundaries, try new things, and connect with everyone she encounters with an open mind/heart.
Ace: What does the term “Boss Babe” mean to you?
Tonia: A woman who knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid to go for it. She knows it’s going to be challenging, and that she’ll probably make a ton of mistakes, but she keeps focused on her desires, asks for help, admits her weaknesses, is vulnerable when she needs to be, supports other babes, and knows that not one ounce of her self worth is dependent on anyone else’s opinion of her.
Ace: How do you empower other women?
Tonia: I’m always myself, and I never try to impress others by compromising who I am. I think this way of being empowers others to do the same. I’m also authentic with the people I meet, no matter who they are, and I think people can feel that. My work happens to support all of this by being committed to helping women truly understand who they are, and what they’re passionate about, which is the most empowering of all.
Ace: What is the best advice you’ve ever received from another woman?
Tonia: To just go for it. I was told that Barack Obama had never been a president before, but he still dove in, claimed his value and went for it. He learned as he went, and gained confidence through action and taking risks. I remember the epiphany I had during this conversation, and that I really wouldn’t get anywhere unless I put myself out there. That was the day I chose to own my value.
Ace: Can you share the biggest lesson you’ve learned from a failure?
Tonia: Waiting too long to ask for help. Nobody can do it alone, and the longer you stay feeling stuck and isolated, the more difficult it becomes. I spent way too long in this mode. When I finally asked for help, I was met by so much support and new ideas (from experts that knew WAY more than me in their expertise), and we were able to create way beyond what I could have ever done on my own. It’s also a great practice in vulnerability, which is something that I still have to work on daily.
Ace: When you are feeling overwhelmed, what do you do to find peace?
Tonia: I’m a huge advocate of movement. Whether it’s going for a run to feel physically free, or a yoga class to free my mind, I love to get my juices flowing and move my body. I also try to start everyday with a meditation reading, gratitude journaling, and sound healing with my singing bowls. All of this takes about 15 minutes, and completely transforms my energy before facing the outside world.
Ace: What legacy do you hope to be remembered for
Tonia: That I was a woman who made people feel acknowledged and left them smiling, and feeling more hopeful than they were before we met. I’d like to be known as authentically and lovingly being me, and that I empowered others to do the same. I’d also love to make a global impact, reaching women around the world through YuSchool, helping them become the bold, badass bosses they were born to be.
Ace: Where can we find out more about you so we can continue to support you?
Tonia: Definitely check out YUOLOGY.com and see how hundreds of modern women in transition have already transformed their lives, and learn about how you can too. You can also let me know if you want my free 3-part Guided Visualization series, and I’ll send them to you. It’s been so fun connecting with all of you here, and I look forward to seeing more of you!
If you’re interested in joining YuSchool, make sure you use code “youace” and you will receive a free 1 hour coaching session with Tonia!